“Shortage of Christian men may be one of the issues that directly affects a Christian family more than the RH bill does”. — w3bservant
I attended a funeral today. A former brethren and co-worker in His vineyard was finally called to meet our Master. This fellow believer of ours died in a sweet age of 38 due to complications of kidney disease.
Several young people in our church attended the final wake; And as expected, the discussions later leaned towards the topic of romantic relationships, particularly because the late brethren remained single and died unmarried.
I opened the topic about the “challenge” of finding the right man/woman nowadays, particularly to young men and women who are already in the marrying age. Among the group, 3 ladies seem to be extremely interested. In the sense of being fair to them, the 3 girls are all beauty and brains <see picture below as proof of concept>. In just one quick look, you will know these are no-nonsense, goal-oriented, witty and determined young gals. (
Man, I’ve known them since they were kids. in fact I think I have been their teacher in Sunday school ages ago. hahahaha.) Faith Ann, the oldest of the trio, is a fresh graduate and yet already works for PAL as a ground attendant. Abby and Shiela, on the other hand are still in college with academic excellence good to enough to give them bragging rights.
But what really caught my attention is the way they think. These girls, who were actually just in their sweet teenage years, already have clear visions about their future. Their mindsets are already beyond their years. Such a potential!
The discussion was really engaging. Until a comment about the seemingly growing “disparity” in the ratio between girls and boys was raised. To cite an example, the late brethren reached the age of 38 and died unmarried. Was that a choice, or a lack of choice? Choice of what?
I think this is a glaring issue the Christian Church faces today, and I believe if this remains unchecked, the Christian ladies are the ones who will be sustaining the most casualties. Let’s face it. There is a “shortage of supply” for males, and I haven’t even mentioned about real Christian men!
Yes, I mean MEN, not boys. Christian ladies like Faith Ann, Abby and Shiela deserve more than just boys– boys of this world who care about their face more than their faith. But they also don’t need men who measure their masculinity by how many girlfriends they have had, or how many women they had sex with. There are a lot of wonderful, talented, smart, noble and lovely ladies in our churches, in fact there are far too many of them, who deserve REAL MEN. Real men who are after God’s heart first and foremost, real men who can cry before the Lord and not be ashamed of it. Men who will not exploit the trust of a woman’s heart to feed his egocentric appetite. Men willing to wait, and pray while waiting, and work towards what the Lord has asked him to do, until this love blooms— made beautiful in its perfect time.
If I will pray for revival, I will pray that there be revival in the hearts of our young men. That we will rise towards our God-given calling, which is to lead in humility. To be priests and kings of our future kingdom, which is our family. I pray that young men will rise to become kings and priests in every family: kings– to lead, provide and protect; and priests– to lead his household towards genuine worship of the Living God, through Christ Jesus, by the power of the Holy Spirit.
If only there are enough Christian men in the Church, then maybe there won’t be any “matandang dalaga” in the Church.
There won’t be any young girls anxiously asking: Lord, where is my Adam?
About the Author
Randy Jay Burgos — fondly called w3bservant– is a Christian youth leader, motivational speaker and an IT enthusiast specializing in open-source web development solutions. His passion is to help the Body of Christ develop and equip top-caliber youth leaders, whose notable excellence in their chosen field is a powerful testimony that inspires others to live a Christ-centered life.
He currently works as a trainer for a US-based consulting company in the Philippines.